The Mental Toil

For many people change is good, for me as well. However there are some things that are taking more time to get used to then other. For one thing I feel like I am not working, though I am caring for my grandmother and working on my shop. I have had a job since I was 14 and legal to work (my choice) before that I worked at local stables and cared for children. Now in my late twenties I am doing something I never thought I would, being a house wife, caring for and elderly family member.

Also hard to get used to in this is that while I am working at home I am the bread winner at this time as my husband has been out of work for a number of months now, being laid off from his company we moved across the country for. While I have always worked I have not been the only one in the family with an income, it makes a bit of stress on a relationship when the roles are reversed.

In some ways it makes my husband obsessed with finding a job. While I am happy that he has not fallen into a state of stagnation it makes it odd when the relationship has placed him as a head of the family, now it feels like he has had a chunk of his pride removed.

This is a common problem with people that have been out or work for some time. While many people get discouraged it is important to make sure that they feel important in the relationship. If your spouse has taken a emotional stress take time to point out all the things that they do to keep the family in order. Even if it is not money it is the labor around the home, or something else that will make them feel like they are playing their Role.

While I am not one for the conventional family roles, however I acknowledged that we are all programmed already to have the set structure. It also dose not help that for all of our relationship, even though I am the one with the collage degree and more the one full time position often in management my husband has always made the majority of our income. Now he has taken the blow as one against him rather then an effect of the economy.

These are things that I will strive to overcome each day, after all, as always life is in flux.